The order and content of the wedding speeches do not have to follow such a rigid structure as, perhaps, they once did. It is critical that you discuss the format of the speeches well in advance so that you can properly prepare. With that caveat I have prepared a general plan that you can follow for your best man speech. This will give you a good insight into what is expected of you and will allow you to focus your preparation and research.
The introduction
Introduce yourself and thank the groom for the opportunity of being the best man. If you are replying on behalf of the bridesmaids then thank the groom for his words.
Comment on the wedding
This can be a general observation, prepared in advance, such as a comment on the groom wearing a suit or an observation from the actual ceremony.
Your relationship to the groom
Explain in more detail who you are and your relationship to the groom. You could say how you first met and how you feel about being asked to be the best man. If you are giving a funny speech then keep the firt part sincere and gently ease into the humor.
Tell some (humorous) anecdotes
During researchng your best man speech you should have plenty of anecdotes to talk about. Do not necessarily restrict this to only the groom. You could talk about how the bride and groom's parent met, if there is a connection or co-incidence. Be careful not to be offensive - even if not intentional.
Be nice to the groom
If you have just given a character assassination of the groom it is even more important that you re-introduce sincerity, prior to the toast - so find at least one thing nice to say about him!
Pay a sincere tribute to the bride and broom
Give your personal thoughts and wishes for the bride and groom's happiness and future.
Give the toast
Generally there will be one toast, to the bride and groom. If you are expected to give more than one then do not leave them all to the end of your speech.
Haven't got a lot to say?
Do not worry! You can fill out your speech with more general observations (comment on your role as the best man, offer some thoughts on marriage), provide a date hook (a memorable historic event that took place on the same day) or read some cards from guests that were unable to attend.
If you have to say a few words, make sure they are the right few words
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